Swedish dating customs
Its remote position on the map, its remarkable capacity for staying out of wars and its endless supply of timber and ore made Sweden both a rich country and an unusual one by international standards.
But don’t fret, there is a NEW POST to make comments. The Observations and Advice from fellow Swedish women: – Women have to make the moves to make things happen – Text, text, text message…just don’t call – Go out on a date and really have no idea where you stand – Meet someone and have no idea where you stand after chatting for a few hours – Learn that they do seem to keep their feelings bottled up. – Ask the man for his number because he’s not asking you – “Swedish men are inconsiderate” i.e. the train, the queue, the store – People don’t really smile and flirt with the eyes. The Swedes are split in their image of themselves: while they are proud of their own history, they also become uncomfortable when confronted with that which is deemed continental and internationally acceptable.When the opportunity arose, Sweden flung itself headlong into the modern era.Now I know I have only been in Sweden a couple days (and will hopefully return permanently) but from reading various blogs and talking to Swedish girls, the dating system here is screwed up and really confusing.
First, I have to admit the American system is not good.
Others are new imports that Swedes have embraced with open arms.
Some customs are so old that we have forgotten their origins.
But as noted above, their original significance may have been lost in the mists of time and replaced by some other import.
It is not simply about the passage of time and human forgetfulness, however.
They light candles at Advent and pay homage to a white-clad Lucia with a crown of candles in her hair.