Parents already dating
I was appalled to find out these leaders allowed their son to sleep with his girlfriend in his room in their home.They didn’t want to confront him because they were afraid he would leave.
Courtship was about enjoying one another’s company, often with family, friends, or in groups, with a goal of determining if it is God’s will for the other person to be one’s future husband or wife. By contrast, today’s form of dating has little or no oversight by families and is more about ‘playing the field’ with multiple partners with little or no intention or commitment to pursue marriage. Having multiple dating relationships is like having multiple mini-divorces which can shatter hearts, shake confidence, plunge one into depression, and awaken love before it’s time.Upon seeing the error of my ways, the Lord purified me, cleansed me, and forgave me of my premarital wrongs.While engaged, the Lord spoke to my husband, who was a virgin when he married me and was struggling with my previous dating past, saying, “Do not call unholy what I have made clean.” We have now shared twenty-seven years of a healthy, happy, glorious marriage.Our permission would only be granted if this is one John and I would consider someone our daughter could marry.Similarly, for our son (we have one son and five daughters), we asked him to speak to us first before pursuing a girl so we could share a unity that the girl is indeed “marriage material,” and we all have a witness from the Lord to proceed.We are happy for our kids to hang out in groups with friends, go to coffee shops for conversations that build friendships, or help them get to know someone.
However, if a man pursues one of our daughters romantically with a more serious intention of dating, we have asked our daughters to have him request permission of my husband, John, and I to court or biblically date our daughter.
The worst parenting regarding dating is no boundaries—little input or leaving it up to the child to flounder through those years.
Stay strong your boundaries, have a consistent prayer life for your child to marry God’s choice for them, and give honest loving input.
The Apostle Paul gave the directive to not be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians ).
Yet, I believe there is another form of being unequally yoked.
Outside of the decision to accept Jesus as Lord and Savior and live a surrendered life to Him, the next most important decision made will be who one chooses to marry and share their life with.