Muslim dating outside religion
Like tens of thousands of Canadian Muslims, Amina Ali is tormented by her religion’s marriage rules.
If you think this is the man for you, he doesnt even know love, because Jesus is love. KATRINA'S MOTHER: Id say youre about to get into the most awful mess you ever got into in your life. The 36-year-old Indonesian-born Ali loves her Canadian-born husband – but they argue about religion all the time. Therefore, there is a shortage of unmarried Muslim men.And in her more fiery moments, Ali admits, she has told her husband she never would have married him if she knew he wasn’t going to seriously try to practise Islam. That means many Muslim women don’t marry at all, which is against the teachings of their religion. Are you going to do what your Mom says the rest of your life, or are you going to go with the man of dreams? KATRINA: When I came out of the wedding ceremony, I saw that not only had my name been changed, but my religion had been changed also. SCOTT ROSS (reporting): It didnt take long for Katrina to realize this was not what she bargained for. KATRINA: I had compromised the deity of Jesus Christ. SCOTT ROSS: How should the everyday person who loves Jesus respond to a Muslim who feels just as strongly about his system as we do about Christ? What they respect out of me is a boldness to say to them, 'Youre missing it.
KATRINA: Yes, a born-again believer who loves the Lord Jesus!
I was five months pregnant with our son, and he kicked me in the stomach because he stayed out late one nightovernightand I questioned him for it. KATRINA: Yes, it was my fault that I made him beat me because I shouldnt have asked him. She had a good upbringing and became a Christian in her teens. Then one night at a club, Katrina met the man of her dreams.
SCOTT ROSS (reporting): An important detail in this story: the man was also a Muslim.
Ali and another Muslim woman, Tannis (a pseudonym), agreed to talk about the Muslim marriage double-bind in a Victoria apartment, while their children played in the background. Or they marry non-Muslim men, which Islam judges a grave sin.
Barefoot in a green polka-dot dress, Ali is a vivacious, naturally outgoing person. Professor Yvonne Haddad, a prominent Islamic scholar at the University of Massachussets, says that Canadian census figures, which are far more detailed than U. census data, reveal the extent of the marriage threat to North America’s roughly two million Muslim women.
Youre saying that across the board this is a belief system, a religion that uses fear and intimidation as part and parcel, if you will, of their doctrine?