I started a dating business for men and women
The tale of the tragic love story between a young Vietnamese woman and an American soldier paints a heartbroken and helpless image of Miss Saigon that remains one of the most poignant and visible depictions of Far Eastern women in popular culture.Yet this portrayal epitomises what many see as a narrow perception of East Asian (defined as Chinese, Japanese, Korean etc) women.
Professor Miri Song, who specialises in ethnic identity at the University of Kent, suggests that the parodying of Chinese people is seen as more “socially acceptable” in part because East Asians are not seen as truly disadvantaged, or merit the same protection status as other ethnic minorities.But Debbie also believes that Asian American women are paying a price for “positive” stereotyping.“We are largely invisible when it comes to politics and popular culture, yet there's a very palpable urban myth that Asian women make better lovers than other women”, she says.The stereotyping plays itself out in the roles you see Chinese women playing in theatre, on TV or in films.Take the 25th anniversary revival of Miss Saigon in the West End.In parts of the US, such a notion has become so pervasive that last year, Debbie Lum, an American filmmaker of Chinese descent, sought to capture the madness in her documentary “Seeking Asian Female”.
“I like to joke that San Francisco is the epicentre of the yellow fever phenomenon”, says Debbie, who describes a general awareness of being looked at by men because she’s Chinese.
Comment: Given that I am approaching middle age, I have noticed more and more women, in my dating pool, are divorced or separated.
In the past, I would never date women who were separated nor women who were recently divorced-i.e. However, I am rethinking my approach and would like comments from the readers of this blog and their experiences.
I’ve been left puzzled by the insensitivity, and the lack of awareness that such comments may cause offence.
It’s as if the Chinese are so foreign it doesn't count.
In the BBC’s official response to BEA’s letter, it stated its commitments to diversity (in a rather patronising, verbose manner). But Asian women are understandably in a rush to change the status quo.