First message on a dating website
I know some mention of something specific on their profile would be good but the guys who are good at this must at least has some set templates that they can riff or improvise on. There's so much variation in personalities that every chic may react differently. It's the only way you separate yourself after you qualify on her acceptable looks scale. Party slut- Here's where being suggestive in your messages plays very well. Artsy- Off-beat humor works very well for this category.Some girls respond well to complimentary openers, some don't. They usually have longer profiles, so look for something for an original joke.
We know you’re trying to be “random” or “funny” with your ridiculous message about getting married / having babies / getting divorced / giraffes / or whatever other inappropriate thing you are messaging to dozens of people at once. It also doesn’t trick anyone (other than the slowest people on the internet) into thinking you wrote that totally nonsensical message just for us.I don't have any "proven" first messages, but one of my friends is successful and he just writes, "hey" or "sup" in his first message. I'm black and the majority of the women on each site weren't. However, if you're doing mass messaging like I do then you simply can't take the time do break down each girl's profile unless you want to make an afternoon out of it.It's the second message that he uses to really get them interested. One that ALWAYS ensured a reply back was "I hope you aren't racist". I guess they always replied so that they could validate themselves somewhat so that they don't feel guilty or racist if they didn't reply. The line I've been using to message chicks is: "Hey I checked out your profile and you seem cool. " By saying I checked out their profile it implies that I did actually check them out which I didn't, I just look at their pictures.Funny is good, but if you are not actually funny, don’t strain anything trying to be.Straightforward and nice is infinitely better than trying to be funny and failing miserably. There are lots of reasons why someone might not message you back. Now have patience, or set your sights on one of the 10,000 other single people in your area.You checked me out and didn't say hi" It has a very high return response rate.
D&P writes about it here: As for the first girl, the convo ended prematurely, but I have a date Friday with the second girl.
I'm not going to say these lines always work, but I don't think any line does.
Girl's who visit your profile are much more inclined to want to meet, because they clicked on you for a reason (i.e.
Some respond well to cocky, edgy openers some see right through that and call you out. Drone- this is the hardest for me because these girls want to keep everything boring and their profiles give you nothing to work with.
Ultimately 90% of it comes down to what you look like. Just cuts the bullshit since all that matters most the time is your look. I'm black and the majority of the women on each site weren't. I try to pick out one incongruent detail and hope that she will emerge from her shell.
“Hey gurl, luv ur pics” is not going to get a response.