Dating my roommate
Much like if someone were absent-mindedly walking into the path of an on-rushing bus, if I found out a friend were considering dating a roommate, I would sprint, dive and pull him or her out of harm’s way. Here’s why: Sometimes it’s clear you’re both on the same page. Normally, were this person not your roommate, I’d say, go ahead, put yourself out there. If you’d gone on a first or second date with someone (even someone you’d known previously), would you then want to live with him or her? like, right away share a home, after your first date? Yet, if you date your roommate, that’s exactly what will happen.
But 24 hours a day seven days a week is a lot of time to spend with someone.Do you think they want to be unwilling party to your fights?Do you think they really signed up to live with a couple? If you choose to date your roommate, it will cause strain on your relationship with all your other roommates.Or, what to do when you break up with your significant other before your lease ends?So yes, relationships and apartments intersect, though there’s one thing that we’ve not discussed, that we get some queries about: What happens when you fall for one of your roommates? My advice is – and you’re not going to like this – don’t do it. hmmm, if he or she’s not interested (and if you really can’t tell, that’s probably the case), then that’s a pretty big matzo ball you’ve got hanging out there. So look forward to awkwardness and feeling uncomfortable in your own home until your lease expires.So here’s the thing: people write us with all sorts of scenarios, often involving their roommates, their roommates’ significant others, and general relationships-when-you’re-living-in-an-apartment type questions. There’s also other relationship-related apartment considerations. For example, when is it time to move in with your significant other?
If you don’t believe me, check out the comments on our article about a roommate’s girlfriend. It’s par for the course – issues always surface, whether they’re disastrous or minor.
Budget for ‘Date Night’ It’s basically an essential.
When living together it’s really easy to just stay in all the time but getting to know someone means you need to spend time alone just the two of you (unless you’re into that kind of thing).
After all, living with someone who’s not your Significant Other is far different than living with your Significant Other – even if they’re the same person.
Do you think they’ll appreciate the two of you adjusting to dating life?
except that’d be hard when your date’s one room over, and you might accidently bump into him or her later that night in the kitchen.