Dating meeting single parents with children
She writes, “He had asked me if I wanted to meet them and of course I said yes, but as I got closer he all of a sudden changed his mind.
To royally screw up a kid, just let them see a parent with a rotating door of ‘relationships’ coming through the house.Single parenting is complicated, especially for single fathers.Most women, especially those without children, don’t understand that lots of single dads live in fear of their child’s mother. But there are countless fathers in a state of perpetual anxiety that one wrong move on his part and the mom will make his life difficult.Let a daughter see her dad shack up with one woman after the other and watch how that little girl turns out.When a mother has an endless string of men coming in her life she can’t be shocked at what her son becomes.For single dads in such a situation, how to blend the kids and the new girlfriend becomes a matter of risk versus reward.
Am I willing to place that very high bet on bringing my girlfriend and my kids together when I likely know where the cards will fall?
Your relationship is relatively new, long distance, and as you said, “a bit difficult.” To meet a partner’s child leaves an impact, on you, but most certainly on them.
Kids might play it off as ‘no big deal,’ but I can assure you it is.
It seems for many of these women, meeting his kids is a really big deal. It’s a sign, a sign of interest, a sign of faithfulness, perhaps a sign of his love.
And for single dads who are doing the job of fatherhood right, it should be a sign.
And though they are justified to believe that meeting his kids is a sign of his affection and commitment, there are many times when that very thing, meeting his children, is the very worst idea.