Dating for young adults
When there is going to be intimacy, he wants a light on so he can get feedback on what his partner wants and feels comfortable with, but some people find that awkward.
In her book “The Science of Making Friends: Helping Socially Challenged Teens and Young Adults,” psychologist Elizabeth Laugeson, Psy.“Disability and confidence – or lack thereof – can go hand in hand with dating insecurities,” he says.Finneman feels fortunate to have gone to law school, which helped his self-esteem.He describes himself as a complete paraplegic who does not have any sensation in or control over his lower body.One challenge he faces in the dating world is an educational barrier.“There are so many different kinds of disabilities, and each one impacts each person differently.” Dating can be awkward and challenging, if sometimes exciting, for anyone at any age.
It can also be thoroughly uncomfortable for young adults to talk to their parents about dating – disability or not.
Wang estimates that at least 90 percent of the people he goes on dates with have not met a peer who uses a wheelchair.
When he was in his 20s, Wang explored online dating using two different approaches.
PHOTO COURTESY JOHNNY WANG He started “being open with the fact that I’m in my wheelchair, both in my photos and the profile bio itself,” he says.
“I’ll usually include positive language like, ‘Don’t let the wheelchair stop you from saying hi.’’” When Wang shared the information about his disability on his profile, he found that he got roughly the same number of dates – not what he expected.
Finding one surefire approach to dating for people with disabilities is as difficult as nailing down one definition for disability.