Dating a guy who flirts
No one wants to be with someone who is playing too hard to get.
There are women who use it as the ONLY way of having a serious discussion. A first-person piece on concurs: “A short text in the middle of the day to let someone know you are thinking of them is a sweet gesture.She texts me from the kitchen to tell me she loves me. And women complain that men aren’t stepping up to the plate.But texting MUST be the icing; it can’t be the cake. They’re right in one regard – texting is a shitty form of communication.What incentive does he have to step up to the plate if he can get away with a minute of phone foreplay? Insist on being treated that way.“Aw, Jeff, you’re adorable. Press the little green dial button and see what happens!But if you want to see me, you’re gonna have to try a little harder. ”You seem like a good guy, Alan, but I’m not looking for a texting buddy, I’m looking for a boyfriend. Take care.” Don’t be afraid that you’re losing your potential boyfriend. You’re freeing yourself of the burden of waiting for an indifferent man to show you he cares. The real issue is that texting is ubiquitous and it’s not going anywhere soon.
Instead of using it as a way to say hi or let you know he’s running late, it becomes a crutch for real relationship communication.
Most people are so attached to their cell phones that they sleep with them at night or would put them in the shower with them if they were waterproof.
Texting can be addicting, but is a great form of digital foreplay. Men are typically goal-oriented and work and projects are at the top of their list. If you started out as friends and moved into casual dating, he might not be sure if it's time to get serious or not. It means they typically won't be keeping their options open anymore.
If you're on his mind, he might think things are fine. Take the time to enjoy the moments you have together and don't over think or spend your precious time projecting to the future. They like to engage in digital conversations with women to boost their egos to keep their options open. If he can't schedule something with you on the weekends, but loves to text with you during the week, you should be filling up your date card and keeping your options open. Let him know that you enjoy receiving texts from him and the daily banter.
Allow your relationship to progress at its own pace. Men think about how they feel when they are around you and miss you when you're apart. If he's texting you sporadically, but not putting a date on the calendar or changing plans last minute, he just might be setting you up as a back-up girl or might have had a bump on the road with his steady sweetie. Let him know you'd like to be friends, but don't allow yourself to get invested in a relationship where you're just the backup girl. If he still doesn't up the ante, find someone else who can't wait to see your text or emoticon on his phone.
Keep those smiley face emoticons in your text replies when you're happy to hear from him.