Boyfriend still online dating
They are pacing the relationship in their own minds to a degree. At this moment, today, right now, you are most likely more invested and farther ahead in this relationship than he is. Managing your emotions is something that you will be glad you did later down the road as opposed to going bat shit crazy on him.We are not in our Feminine Energy when we act bat shit crazy and it’s just not attractive. Consider how you discovered this gut wrenching piece of information.
No need to be reactive especially when he’s not really active on there.I personally still get emails from Match saying I have messages or so and so winked and I haven’t logged onto that site in over two years.I am not on a dating site, even though it appears I am. So before your analyzing mind goes into overdrive, make sure that he is actually active and doesn’t just have some dormant profile up there.When you find your boyfriend is still on a dating site, you have two choices really.You can confront him or you can downgrade him and pull back from the relationship.It’s not always that they don’t want to be with you.
It’s more that they aren’t moving along at the same pace you are, so they juggle until they can make up their minds. This will only put him on the defense and he very well may play the blame shifting game as in make you feel like crap for snooping in the first place.
And I told him to deactivate all these sites, but still he's on. I've tried, but sometimes I can't stop thinking of it.
And he told me it was just nothing so we don't have to talk about it it's just all teasing especially he is working in Afghanistan and it's really hard to live a life there.
Your other options to confronting him is to just accept this truth, he isn’t as invested into you as you thought and downgrade him and stop being so available to him. Downgrade him and continue on with your Merry life!
Invest into yourself, take one of Katarina’s workshops like Leaning Back and Cultivating Feminine Mystique or get her book, He’s Really That Into You, He’s Just Not Ready!
If you know for a fact that he is online and active, and you decide you must confront him or you will die, don’t go at it in an accusing manner please.