Books on interracial dating
It was on this day 45 years ago the United states Supreme Court decision in the Loving vs. Karazin are celebrating the spirit of the day because the subject is near and dear to their hearts.Virginia case struck down all state laws banning interracial marriage in America. They are the co-authors behind the new book – a fresh take on a very tired debate among Black woman.
Littlejohn (left) is divorced and dating, while Karazin, whose husband is White, is happily married with kids. Are they afraid their families would never accept it? “Both of us had to open ourselves up to the fact that there were cultural reasons preventing Black women from looking outside,” says Littlejohn. We really felt it was necessary to talk about sex in some kind of way because it’s such a big issue with Black women about White men can or can’t do, and what Asian men can’t do, or how they can or cannot satisfy the needs of a Black woman. KARAZIN: The thing that really stood out to me is that there were so many people who really wanted to tell their stories.My husband and I are different from each other in almost every way, including racially.We knew going into our marriage that we were different, but as most married couples know, you really don't someone until you're married and living with them.He likes meat and potatoes and beer on occasion; listens to alternative rock and people like Nick Drake; and likes camping and hiking.I, on the other hand, can throw down on fried chicken, greens, and mashed potatoes; prefer gospel, jazz, hip-hop, or anything I can dance to; and would much rather workout indoors or run than be in the wilderness. As we learned more about just how different we were, our differences began to put a strain on our marriage.Even our personalities are at two different extremes. Tim and Kathy Keller explain the phenomenon in their book The Meaning of Marriage: "If your purpose in marriage was to acquire a 'soul mate'—a person who would not change you and would supportively help you reach your life goals—then this particular reality of marriage will be deeply disorienting.
You wake up to the realization that your marriage will take a huge investment of time just to make it work.
We had work to do to get to know each other, and many of our confusions were rooted in the fact that we were so culturally different.
My husband and I joke that we are the reasons for the black and white stereotypes out there.
She said, “I took this idea and pitched it to agents and now I’ve got someone who wants a book proposal.” But then she says, “I don’t have a book proposal, could you write it with me? At first I thought, It was her story about how she came to marry Michael. Loyola is really good about setting undergraduates up with people who are in an area or profession that they’d like to go into. We used a lot of people that she met through the blog.
But, what attracted me most to the idea is that Christelyn was very open to going beyond Black women and White men but to culture and faith too, and that was something that was intriguing to me…right around the time Christelyn approached me abut the book there was study that had come out that said Black women don’t date outside of their race and culture, and when they do, they do so less than any other gender or racial group. There were so many people who were coming to it and really vibing about what she was talking about. LITTLEJOHN: Christelyn and I have very different chapters that focus on very different things.
Just as distressing will be the discovery that your spouse finds you a stranger and has begun to confront you with a list of your serious shortcomings." Our differences in culture caused some conflicts at the beginning of our marriage. The gospel breaks down barriers because in salvation there is no distinction between people of different races, backgrounds, and ethnicities (Romans ).