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"However, the majority of churches are not trying to exclude singles, but they are more marriage and family focused, which means singles are not acknowledged very often."The Rev.Alan Fretto, a single senior in Danbury, Conn., points out, "The church is geared toward children, women and couples.

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The simplest approach to avoid this problem is to continue to use the Facebook app but not use the in-app browser."We try to help them understand their singleness is God's will for their lives right now, for 'such a time as this,' to help them to really see Christ in their lives," says Card.Single Expectations Churches think that unmarried congregants have different expectations about church, when what's often lacking in the church is an acknowledgment of the singles in their midst."Some churches are certainly aware of this demographic, but other churches are almost impervious to it," says Danylak."The church focuses on marriage and family, with the expectation that by focusing on family, you're encouraging singles to get married."One reason churches have not adopted singles ministries across the board has been the diversity of this demographic – singles in their 20s/30s; single parents and their families; single divorced adults; or widows and widowers."The strategy for the church is to think about different reasons singles look for support in their particular circumstances and then design a support structure that will draw them into the larger body."John Card, single life pastor at the Second Baptist Church Woodway campus in Houston, says his church makes an effort to reach singles.

"When I came as the single life pastor 4½ years ago, we didn't have a very big singles ministry for those in their 30s, but now it's one of the fastest-growing ministries we have because people are getting married later or are divorced," he says.

When it comes to dating, women must also take care not to talk about exes - and be prepared to run a mile if their date brings up his former flame. If you talk about your ex he's not gonna respect you because as far as he's concerned you have a clean slate and he doesn't want to know anyone you've slept with.

'If he talks about his ex he's probably not over her and chances are he's still sleeping with her so run a mile because you don't need that type of baggage in your life.'Nadia also suggests keeping the conversation lighthearted because you'll find out all his values and goals later.'I'm a big believer in trying to keep the first date really fun and really lighthearted.

Nadia explained: 'A trusty black dress and a nice pair of heels.

It doesn't have to be expensive, I wear a lot of high street most of my shoes on the show are from Primark.'You can make them look expensive by taking care of them and picking and choosing ones that look good.'Traditional rules of polite conversation still apply so politics and religion are off the table.

Nadia, 34, from Chelsea, London, says single women need to dedicate at least one night a month to finding a partner if they're serious about settling down.