For the first time in our marriage, I'm beginning to regret having married her.
because he's a selfish little nobody who craves attention from anything and anyone 24/7.I'm getting to the point where I'm just tired of trying to hold our marriage together by myself.She overreacts to everything and as soon as one thing goes badly for her, she's talking about how she'll never be able to have a normal life and nobody cares and so forth.My wife confessed to me about a week ago that she has cheated on me with at least 14 people, both men and women.She says that she doesn't want to do it and it makes her feel bad but she can't control herself.We have been in contact with a therapist (first session is on Sunday) and a sex addiction support group (first meeting is next week). Well, it's an addiction and she's getting help and she came clean and apologized to me. I love her and I forgave her immediately, without hesitation, but now I feel like I'm a victim in this and I don't have a right to complain. My girlfriend has access to my Internet, emails, cellphone, purse, office email, office, car as my accountability to her.
She is eager to get help and we are hopeful, as the people that we have met are absolutely wonderful. She's in a difficult place and I don't want to say anything that's going to discourage her in her efforts to get treatment. I haven't cheated and don't intend to, but, as a sex addict, it's fair to give her all that.
The worst thing you could do is accept this whole mess with your making her life cushy trying to heal her while she's made you feel so low.
Why should you take on all of her baggage when you've been treated like crap?
I said one thing yesterday that was just slightly thoughtless (it slipped out, I'm sorry) and she burst into tears and said that she feels like this is always going to be hanging over us. I haven't slept with a lot of people in the past, but I did sleep with those few a lot. Immediately stop panicing, being depressed, crying, and similar behaviors.
She doesn't believe that I can actually forgive her for this and it took four days of crying and begging just to get her to agree not to move out. She needs to understand forgiveness is not gonna happen in a split second (and may not happen) and she needs to support you, too. It sounds like she has tons of guilt and expressed it when she wanted to leave. As I said, sex addiction is no excuse to cheat IMHO. Don't take her word as gospel ATM from my experience its easy to want to go back to the addiction especially if its her coping mechanism and now she's in a v dilfficult situation she will look to what she knows. Your wife loves you, and reckons upon you - this is obvious, because she asked help FROM YOU, and she needs now a strong and wise man and not a crying one - right?
My advice to you would be to walk away from that b***h.